You know what I’m sick of? This whole gay marriage fight! I mean, really! Let people be who they are! Let people love who they love! This is stupid! If you’re a woman who doesn’t agree with gay marriage, then I suggest you not marry another woman. If you are a man who opposes gay marriage, then allow me to suggest that YOU don’t marry another man! It’s that simple!

Even if you oppose due to religion. Wonderful! Your voice has been heard! You have stood up for what you believe. You will not be condemned at the pearly gates for staying silent. You’ve done what you believe is right. Now, sit down. Why? Because it’s not for you to judge! If you believe that gay people are wrong, be a good Christian and let God handle them. That ain’t your job! WHY would you even WANT that job?! Really? How does gay marriage affect YOUR marriage? It really doesn’t. Just like Suzie and Bob getting a divorce down the street has NOTHING to do with your marriage. That is, unless, YOU’RE the reason for their divorce. And if that’s the case, your marriage problems have NOTHING to do with gay marriage, Suzie or Bob! It’s WAY deeper! But I digress.

I get asked how, as a Christian, do I not have a problem with gay marriage. Well, for two very good reasons. #1. I believe in the Bible. The Bible tells me that gay people exist. (Well, will you look at that! It’s correct!) It also commands that I not judge. (That means to me that even if gay people ARE living in sin, it’s not my place to “deal with them” with my OWN mighty sword of scorn, slander and discrimination!) He’ll handle it, himself–without my input! The Bible FURTHER commands me to love. (I don’t think we need an explanation on that one, do we?) Now, if I believe EVERYTHING in my Bible…(you see where I’m going?)…how can I NOT believe in gay people? How can I, in good conscience, not love them? And how can I possibly judge them? Everyone will account for their own life one day. So, I make it my mission to really stay out of other people’s business.

My 2nd reason? I’m a beautiful, Christian, intelligent, funny, witty, educated, successful 37 year old black woman with no children, no criminal record, no diagnosed mental illnesses, good health and a heart of gold–yet I’m still single. I’ve apparently got a hard enough time getting married my damn self with all this good stuff I bring to the table!!!! I don’t have the energy the worry about who “errrrebody” else is marrying or not marrying!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just watched singer Monifah marry the love of her life on R&B Divas: Atlanta and I cried like a baby as if I was really attending! I wasn’t physically there, but in that moment it felt like I was in the presence of true love. It was beautiful! I didn’t see 2 women. I just saw 2 people who love each other, committing to each other for life. I saw the same thing I see at ALL weddings. Love.

Love is God’s greatest gift. Who are we to deny the gift of love? It’s not ours to give or take.

Can we just move on to issues that matter. Our children are getting dumber! Our criminals are getting smarter! Our veterans are NOT being taken care of as they should be! We’re fighting wars and losing some of our heroic men and women! We have “affordable” healthcare that really ISN’T affordable. (Have you SEEN the deductibles??? Yeah, you can go to the doctor for a ROUTINE visit, but don’t get sick FOR REAL! You STILL can’t afford it!)

I’m just ready for this mind-numbing fight to be over! Let people be who they are and love who they love! You mind your marriage and let them mind theirs!